Five Easy Tips For Better Parenting
1. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Children offer the perfect opportunity for parents to revisit their childhood. The excitement of experiencing things for the very first time, the freedom from one's inhibitions and the pure energy children naturally offer, bring a charge to the lives of those they touch. Focus on the positive and relish in your child's fresh perspective as much as possible.
2. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF
Remember that you will not always be the perfect parent -- that does not mean that you're not a good parent. Congratulate yourself on your success and learn from your mistakes. After all, parenting is one of the most challenging jobs you will ever take on.
3. THE IMPORTANCE OF BALANCE
Balance, in terms of raising a child, requires a good mix of structure and old fashioned fun, a focus on your own needs and the needs of the child and a healthy consideration of short term vs. long term objectives. Look at the big picture to find the best course of action for the child in relation to the family and society at large.
4. UNDERSTANDING YOUR CHILD
There is usually a reason why a child misbehaves. A child seldom acts out intentionally. Parents should realize how important it is to look at the situation causing the disturbance, rather than attempt to place blame on the child.
5. EFFECTIVE USE OF TIMEOUT
When your child refuses to do as he or she is told, immediately enforce a timeout. Experts suggest enforcing timeout for a period of one minute for each year of the child's age. This method gives the child the opportunity to calm down and avoid further disruptive behavior. It also allows you to take pause and avoid losing your temper.
November 2000